Confidence coaching

 Inner critiques

The internal critical voices that discourage us to live our life fulfilled are our inner critiques. They tell us that we are incapable, not experienced enough, risking too much or simply not worthy. Every one of us has those party poopers in the head. They speak in different voices and in different situations. They cause internal conflict and turmoil. The longer you ignore them the more persistent they get. And if you are not aware of them, they will whisper lies in your sleep and waking life and prevent you from living fully.

Resourcefulness and creativity

The antidote to the voice of the inner critiques is the voice of resourcefulness and creativity. The one that is innate to us. This voice has us enjoy music without questioning why. This one accompanies us when we walk in nature and simply be. This is the voice that is with us when we enjoy a dinner with friends. This one does not coax or threaten you but leads you to pace and fulfillment. A powerful question that allows you to tune into that voice is ”what do I truly want in life?”. This gives us confidence in ourselves.

What a coach can do for you?

What you can achieve with a coach: You will strengthen the voice of resourcefulness and creativity. Until you become anchored in it. The wholesome voice becomes clearer and dims out the other saboteur voices. And then you start tapping into the full energy and potential that has always been in you but has been siphoned off by the saboteurs. Once you are fully standing in your true authentic self, peace comes about within yourself and with the outer world. You rest in yourself and have confidence.

How can you strengthen the voice of resourcefulness and creativity?

By focusing what is truly important to you. We identify your values and work with them. Values such as courage, wisdom, compassion, happiness, honesty, fun, etc. If you honor your values in your life, you have a constant source of energy available. Together we find and formulate your purpose in life. If you know your purpose in life, it’s like a compass that keeps you on track even if things get rough at work or in your private life. You also start acknowledging yourself for the things you do well and for who you are. Together we look at the inner critiques and name them. Whilst you do this, you don’t get consumed by their negativity. I help you to stay in the positive and rewarding realm of life purpose, values and acknowledgement until it becomes your habit. To quote Amy Cuddy from her TED talk: Don’t fake it until you make it. Fake it until you become it! That gives confidence.

What happens in the brain?

Science has shown that when we learn something new, we lay new neural pathways in our brain. Usually information is processed along preferred pathways, of particular neurons firing together. By tuning into the voice of resourcefulness and creativity we start laying new pathways and new neurons fire together. And the more we use the new pathway, the more it becomes a highway and the old pathways will become weaker. By settling into the voice of resourcefulness and creativity new pathways are used and amplified.

To simplify, the new pathways of resourcefulness and creativity are usually connected to and in the right brain hemisphere. The voices of the Saboteurs are usually associated with the left brain hemisphere. Co-active coaching or mindfulness balances an overactive left brain hemisphere with a more activated right brain hemisphere. That way we access more brain capacity. We become more resourceful and creative and, in other words, smarter.

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TV interview about professional and personal growth with Bell Noma broadcasted on Dutch national television, March 7 2015 on RTL4 (Lifestyle & Experiences plus).

Amy Cuddy (social psychologist) in TED talk: Body language affects how others see us, but it may also change how we see ourselves. Social psychologist Amy Cuddy shows how “power posing” — standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident — can affect testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain, and might even have an impact on our chances for success.

Brain activity whilst learning – activating new neuronal pathways.

I started coaching with Nadja when I started going through a major transition. I was feeling overwhelmed. Coaching with Nadja was one of the best decisions I could have made. Immediately, I felt supported, nurtured, and heard. My imagination was engaged and I was creatively solving my own problems. I was empowered. Thank you, Nadja!

Khristee Rich